How can you talk with your teen?

My Jenny is at that age where all she wants to do is go out with her friends and spend time alone in her room.
It stressed me out a lot and still does! Tried many ways and ended up with:
– sometimes a face to far talk won’t work and if not then creat ways to try to communicate like letters or maybe record a video! I know it might sound crazy but come on!! Anything I would do!
– Donโ€™t lecture, talk for hours, or ambush your teen.
– If your teen tells you a secret, keep it.
– Listen carefully to her/his concerns and feelings, and
respect their views. Teens are often afraid of being โ€ข lectured, punished, or not understood.
Stress that your teenager can and should make choices about his/her behaviors, and is responsible for
these decisions.
– Offer praise. Make a date to spend one-on-one time with your teen. Find something you both like to do.
– Tell your teen you love her/him With all the changes their going through, they need to hear it now more than ever.

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Back To School Shopping

Back To School Shopping

Itโ€™s fun to hit the mall, but back-to-school shopping can be overwhelming. Between the high prices and confusing sizes, finding the perfect items isn’t easy!

– Shoes, shoes are very important make sure you buy the perfect cut and had to be super comfortable and your kids have to love it! I usually spend a little extra on shoes and don’t mind cuz the perfect shoes can last the whole school year!

– socks, you never can get enough of socks I usually get loads of them.

– white tees for the boys, I usually get 3 of those because the show stains very easily.

– Black leggings are a must with my Jenny we get 2 of those.

– Swept pants are a must with my Adam.

– backpacks I spend a little extra on them to get something good and well made so that in lasts longer.

– Extra small bag for school, if the kids have one then no need but if they don’t I find it a must! They may need it to carry extra stuff to school, snacks, PE clothes and other needs.

– Lunch box, my kids are old enough to get food from the cafeteria but no they take their food fresh made at home especially since Adam started his diet he has to take special kinda food.
Ps. Make sure you get containers for sandwiches and fresh snacks better, safer and healthier then plastic bags.

– Other school supplies I usually wait till the kids start school them get what they need, teachers give them certain items to get and notebooks.
In the past I used to get everything new! Stack up all over again on everything but no!! No need to do that!! I noticed that the kids have loads of school utensils! So make a list of what your kids really need and don’t by anything that you already have at home.

Wish all our beautiful lovely children a great school year ahead of them and parents good luck ๐Ÿ˜‰

Family meeting

Family meetings are a big thing with me and my kids!
I don’t really know when I started them but we’ve been having them as long as I remember!

Family meetings are time set aside to promote healthy communication, make decisions, solve problems, and encourage strong family relationships. There are two basic types of family meetings scheduled and informal.

I take family meetings very seriously and I truly think that they are very important.

A scheduled meeting provides an opportunity to get together and discuss family issues, the whole family comes together to talk about an issue that affects every member, Whoโ€™s going to do what chore? What should we do during vacation this summer? Talk about a bad something that is upsetting a member of the family or a bad behavior that happened and wasn’t expectable! The entire family works together to answer such questions, and explain behaviors or reactions.

Family meetings should include an open dialogue, allowing everyone to express his or her opinions and respond sensitively to one another. Interrupting, criticizing, and correcting should not be allowed. Openly discussing an issue together shows that everyoneโ€™s opinion is valued and that the family is a team.
To be successful, organized meetings should be short and well planned.
With time kids will get used to the family meetings and they will call for one! Seriously that happened with Adam and I was so proud that he called for a family meeting and me, Jenny and him say and talked about a very serious matter that happened and I didn’t know about! I was so proud! So happy that he did ๐Ÿ™‚

Taking Action

It feels like I will never stop talking about this!! But I hope not I hope it will end and I believe it will!
My kids and over weight, yes again! It’s like an endless process, I talked about Adam joining a boot camp and is doing really good ๐Ÿ™‚ he’s on break now because of Ramadan but he’s back in straight after inshallah.
I have been off Jenny’s back for a while now about losing weight but due to some health issues she’s having and me fearing that she would go into deep depression I had to start talking to her about it again and trying new ways to motivate her! But no way she’s so hard headed that she doesn’t wanna do anything and keeps fighting with me all the time!
I know it’s hard it’s very hard but I have to do what I have to do and I will not give up!
So me and her dad had a serious talk and decided to be kinda hard on her and give her an ultimatum that if she doesn’t agree on working with us on this issue and let us put her in a gym with a personal trainer we would take away her phone, iPad and both Cameras that she can’t live without!! Uuuuhhhh it was really hard doing this because I totally know that it’s hard for her!
I don’t know if it’s harsh to do so! But we seriously tried everything! And this is the only way left is take away her privileges away!
Will see how this goes we have a date set up with a personal trainer on Sunday and we will see how it goes! Hope are up and inshallah for the best ๐Ÿ™‚

Teens And Makeup

When is it ok for teens to start putting on Make up?

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Makeup is fun for many girls, but you may feel it’s too early to let your teen daughter wear makeup on a daily basis.
My Jenny asked me if she could put makeup two years ago and I said no not now your to young!
She asked me a year later if she can for a family gathering – small party I agreed and though it was ok then she asked me again on Eid and I said yes it was ok since all girls play dress up and glamour up in Eid and that was really it! This year she asked me if it was ok to put lipstick on for going out and I wanted to say no so badly I really felt like no it’s to soon I’m so not ready for this! She’s growing up!! But really how young is to young nowadays? With this new generation!!
I allow my Jenny to wear lipstick now, to me it does no harm if it makes her feel good about her self yes we are all beautiful but if a little bet of lipsticks make you feel special then I’m with it all the way ๐Ÿ™‚

I’m not saying that teens should be allowed to put on full heavy makeup with out any rules!! no but if your teen wants to start using make up teach her to use make up to enhance that natural beauty she has

Teens And Smoking

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Teens And Smoking

Have you talked to your teen about smoking?

Everyone is well aware of the health risks associated to smoking, yet teenagers are still eager to try it. Although it is okay for you son or daughter to experiment with these things. And when I say it’s ok I don’t mean OK as ya it’s all good, nothing to worry about! No I mean ok in that it’s normal and it can happen cuz teens are more likely to wanna try new things even if they know it’s bad for them and wrong! So have an open mind about it and be prepared and ready to take action very wisely.

React calmly.
So you walked into your son or daughter’s room and caught them puffing away? As much as you want to freak out, you need to keep your cool. The young person will be less likely to absorb what you say. Of course you’re going to be angry, but remember, shouting and screaming at you son or daughter is not going to resolve anything.

Discuss.
That’s correct, discuss, don’t lecture. Communication is key, especially when a topic is as important as this one. Follow this loose guideline, and your conversation should go (fairly) smoothly.

Ask.
Ask your son or daughter what they found so appealing about the cigarettes. Was it peer pressure? The desire to look cool? Take what your son or daughter says and express your own point of view about the matter. Explain how you don’t want them to take time off of their life by smoking, and how you love them and don’t want them to harm them selfs.

Addiction
Talk about smoking addiction. Ask your teen how he/she likes making his/her own choices. Tell him/her that while the first cigarette is their choice, smoking becomes addictive very quickly. Therefore, it will soon be the cigarettes making the choice for them.

Remind your son or daughter about the downsides to smoking: yellow teeth, wrinkles, cancer, smelly breath, shortness of breath, brittle hair, and smelly clothes.

If you haven’t caught them doing it and inshallah you never will don’t drop the subject ever I think it’s very important to have that talk with them ๐Ÿ™‚

Your On My Mind When Your In School

My kids have exams this week and every morning I stress out a bet and worry on how will they do!
I wanted my kids to know that so I though of sending a MSG to then while in school so when they come back home they can see that I was thinking about them ๐Ÿ˜‰

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Try it one day ๐Ÿ˜‰ xoxo much love to all