As a parent, you do everything in your power to protect your children. You lock all the doors in your house before going to bed. You tell them never to talk to strangers. You insist they wear helmets whenever they ride a bike. But how much time do you spend talking with them about personal safety as it relates to their bodies?
I know it’s hard talking about this specially when this subject is barley talked about in Kuwait! But let’s be honest sexual abuse is real! Yes this is happening! As horrible as it sounds it’s true!
Having conversations about personal safety with your children can prevent abuse and help them enjoy a safe childhood.
As a mom there is nothing off limits to me when it comes to my kids! I remember talking to my kids about this when they first started school by the age of 6 and then talked again about it after maybe two years, I can’t tell you how to talk to your kids, every mom has her own way to do so, and we all know what’s appropriate and what’s not! What’s a good touch and what’s a bad touch! What is ok and what is not!
In my opinion just be honest, clear, simple and talk with loads of love and in my case I always show my kids and make them feel that I got their back no matter what happens and I will always protect them with my life.
Children should know they can come to you whenever they feel confused, “icky” or uncomfortable. Children need to know that their bodies are their own and no one should touch body parts that get covered by a bathing suit, unless they are hurt and a doctor or a parent is helping them.
Help them learn the difference between a safe secret and an unsafe secret (a safe secret will eventually be told and will make everyone smile) and between tattling and reporting (reporting is OK because it involves a safety situation). And let them know that it’s ok to say NO!
Why kids don’t tell?
– They don’t think anyone would believe them.
– They don’t want to upset their parents.
– Too embaresed.
– They get told it’s a secret.
– They get told their parents knew about it.
– They get told it’s a game.
– Afraid that dad would hit them.
– They simply don’t want anyone to know.
If your child, or any child, discloses abuse to you, your first response makes all the difference in how they come to terms with the situation. Even though you may be shocked, resist the urge to react strongly to the news or display anger.
What to Say:
– “I believe you.”
– “I’m really glad that you told me. It took a lot of courage to tell me.”
– “It’s not your fault.”
– Do not promise to keep it a secret. Instead say, “We’ll work together to get you help. I will need to tell dad to help us.
May Allah protect all our children and give us the strength to face what hits us with love and courage.
The other day Jenna was out with her dad came back home with a name stamp of her own, I was like omg why!! What would you need it for? I asked, she answered just for fun! Then it hit me school books name tags!! Yes how cool is that! It would look amazing and instead of writing on a million books and notebooks I can simply stamp away yay! gotta get Adam one now 😉
Functioning Parent While Depressed
Everything is harder when depressed can you imagine how harder it is when your a mom with millions of responsibilities!! It’s crazy, no no it’s over crazy!!
The hardest thing really is how to act normal and not let your kids see any difference in your actions, emotions and daily behavior.
Many mothers with depression are less likely to engage positively with their kids and that’s the hard truth about depression, so can you imagine how hard we have to work to put this play on that everything is ok!
I recently left my job, it might not be the wisest choice but for me it was the best choice! I was stuck in a job where I was seriously dying I hated it beyond imagination and I felt like I had no purpose going to work everyday from 7.30am till 1pm doing nothing! Nothing at all!!!! I would rather be at the gym! Do errands! You know what I mean!
Jobless for a month and feeling lost, don’t know what I really wanna do in life. Feeling distance from my kids although trying my best to be so normal and the same me around them but it’s very hard it breaks my heart at times, thank Allah that my kids are old enough to not be needing me 24/7 and their off school and always having something to do with friends and cousins
I try very hard to ignore the little super-mom in my head telling me to buck up and deal. Because while I do believe in pushing myself to stay active and functioning when I’m depressed, I’ve also come to realize that it’s important not to push too hard! It’s ok it’s totally ok to feel like staying in bed all day and not wanting to do anything but eat!!! We are humans and we need to feel weak sometimes! Feel blue and feel sad! But the most important thing is that you know that I can’t stay like this forever! You need to fix it and fix it right. Everyone of us can in their time and way! We are all different and what works for me doesn’t have to work with you!
Sleepovers Gone Wild
I have never been a fan of sleepovers but I haven’t been against it overall!
When Adam started to sleepover it was so easy to handle. It happened every now and then noting big really! As days went by and he got a year older it has been a problem! He wants to sleepover every school day off he gets and every weekend!! It’s so out of control, I say no but then comes the begging and wining and the whole drama thing! And I always well ok not always cuz sometimes I cave in I’m being totally honest now but most of the time I say NO and that’s final I just shut down and stop hearing him! Then he started playing me and his dad he would take permission from his dad and start playing me with that!!
How do I fix this problem without really taking his fun away? That’s the big question here!
What I started to do is force him to come home and if he started trying I would say that’s it Adam I’m on my way to get you NOW! So it’s your choice you stay longer at your friends and come home at the end of the day or I cut the fun and take you home now, and that really helped me with controlling the sleepovers.
I still have some hard times with him especially when his friends start sending me massages but I try to be cool and strong hahaha and stick to my word ;p
My Jenny wants to be a writer that’s what I discovered recently she has been reading a lot lately and I noticed her love for writing.
Besides reading a lot, writing a lot is the next important step to becoming a good writer! So I had to do my researching and here are some tips that I found that will help me help my Jenny to find her way and hopefully will be good help for you if you have a little one that wants to take this path:
– Let them Steal from your favorite writers.
imitation is the best way to incorporate good techniques into your writing. Later you’ll take these tools and make them your own, but at first you should feel free to mimic the best writers.
– Let them read about writing online. There’s a huge amount of information about writing on the Internet. Let them do some Google searches for writing blogs, writing tips, and the like.
– Make writing a daily habit. Whether they write in the morning before school, or during lunch, or after school, or just before they go to bed.
– Let them write what they know about. While it’s fun to use writing as a way to explore your imagination, the most realistic writing comes when you write about things they know.
– Let them write what their interested in or love doing.
– Try to not Let then get discouraged. If their not a good writer at first, don’t worry and explain to then that — no one ever is in the beginning. Good writing comes with practice, with experience, with time. Tell them to just keep doing it.
– Yes, grammar and spelling are important. These might seem like boring subjects to the kids . I know I wasn’t interested in grammar in school, and I’m paying for it now sometimes haha 😉
– Get them a special notebook. This isn’t necessary, but I’ve found that it helps. Teach them Keep notes about characters and stories they want to write about.
– Observe. Become an observer and listen to them, give them ideas and help them make points.
– Encourage them to the max.
– Show them how proud you are of them.
– Let them share what the write with close friends and family members.
We were invited yesterday to the opening of Hello Kitty spa at The Avenues unfortunately jenny couldn’t make it do I had to go alone!
Beyond cuteness is all I can say!!
What a great hang out place for you and your daughters! do your nails, have a cupcake, talk and most important spend fun quality time 😉
Hello Kitty Spa is located in the second avenues first floor
Phone number 22597217