When I Said NO

I finally said NO and meant it.My kids are my everything! I try to always give them what they want and provide what they need no matter what! I do say no sometimes but on what i think are the little stupid things.

With my kids being teenagers I have been having some problem with their attitude especially with my Adam, you know how those teenage years can be hard at times! Today i put my foot down and didn’t give in! That broke my heart! Felt so guilty and actually still do! I had my reasons to say no, and my biggest reason was his attitude! I couldn’t take it anymore! 

I seriously might be one of the most understanding mothers out there but today i had to put my foot down! and it feels awful! My heart is aching so bad that i cried! I wish he can understand that I wasn’t mad! I was hurt! 

As a parent you might feel hurt, worried and unsure about what right! Its hard specially when the most simplest conversation turns into an argument But i always keep reminding myself that this phase will come to an end. 

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Braces

 
Braces are a common and almost expected part of growing up! Most teens are bummed to find out that they need braces but not my kids! Haha they we’re so excited! My kids have good teeth in general they needed braces just to close up the gaps nothing serious just for a better smile ๐Ÿ™‚ 
We went for a check up and the Dentist Agreed that they needed braces to close the gaps between their teeth both of Adam and Jenna have the same case just gaps between their teeth and nothing serious, they will have it on for a year. And right there and then they had thier braces on! It took around 2:30 hours for both kids and me going from one room to an other haha but it was all good ๐Ÿ™‚ 



getting used to braces will take some time. As the teeth move, there may be soreness, slower chewing, and changing dietary considerations. Remember to be sensitive and encouraging, talking them through their concerns if they seem stressed, always have soft food around at the first couple of days when they get their braces on and make sure they brush after every meal and clean in between the braces with a tiny brush that you will get from the pharmacy. 

Avoid nuts, chips, gum and candy they don’t go well with braces at all! 

What do braces do? 

Braces straighten teeth because they do two very important things: stay in place for an extended amount of time, and exert steady pressure. It’s this combination that allows braces to successfully change the position of teeth in a patient’s mouth.

How long is the treatment? 

Correcting the position of the teeth often takes anywhere from 6 months to 2 or 3 years with any of the methods.

Caring for Teeth With Braces:

Braces, wires, springs, rubber bands, and other appliances can act like magnets for food and plaque, which can leave permanent stains on the teeth if not brushed away. Most orthodontists recommend brushing after meals with fluoride toothpaste and taking special care to remove food stuck in braces. Some orthodontists will also prescribe or recommend a fluoride mouthwash, which can get into places in a mouth with braces that a toothbrush can’t.

It is important that your children have regular dental visits to make sure their teeth are healthy and to prevent future oral health problems, as well as provide your teen with information on proper oral hygiene during this time.

Note to kids! 

remember that no matter what, your braces will come off eventually โ€” and you’ll be left with a wonderful, straight smile.

Happy Birthday Jennaย 

My tiny little brat! No matter how old you grow you will always be my baby girl ๐Ÿ’•

I wish you greatness in this world! May you always find peace, love, joy and happiness โค๏ธ 

Remember to always Listen to your heart, take risks and always be kind to others! Be grateful for what you have and love yourself because your are amazingly awesome ๐Ÿ˜

Happy Birthday Jenny ๐Ÿ˜˜

Love you loads xoxo

How Nara Changed My Life!ย 

I was going through a bad time in my life, feeling lost, depressed and just so blah! 

My kids were growing so fast, they started to hang out with friends all the time, Adam started going shopping with his friends when i use to buy him everything! It felt that my kids don’t need me anymore! I felt that me being around all the time is no longer important! I started letting my son know in advance if we were going out on a family lunch or dinner! Were before that never happened we always went out together and did so many activities. 

I felt like i wanted a baby! I know its mad! Why would i want a baby!! I wanted to feel needed, It sounds crazy yes! My kids still need me and will always need me but at the age they are in now they just wanna hang out with friends and do their own thing and I totally understand, no doubt i want the best for them and i know that this is so normal at this age. 

I needed something and i needed it fast! So i decided to get a small puppy, we do have an American Akita but he grow to become taller than me mashallah, I needed a dog that will always stay small in size so i can carry around, so i got a pom and called her Nara and oh how she changed my life! People around me noticed the difference in my attitude and mood they started telling me how happier and peaceful i became i smile and say Nara ๐Ÿ˜‰ I always heard of animal therapy but never really understood it fully and now i so do and i highly recommend it! Now when the kids are out Nara is always around and she is the cutest thing ever. 
Some benefits of Animal Therapy:

– Lifts spirit and helps with depression.

– Provides comfort.

– Reduced boredom.

– Lowers anxiety.

– Provides non-stressful environment.

– Provides motivation to move more. 

Grounding Teens

 

Sometimes I get frustrated with my teenagers when they violate basic family rules, like curfews! and grounding them becomes a natural reaction. Grounding can be an effective disciplinary technique if it is applied at the right time, in the right circumstances and for the right length of time. But if not it can go wrong and creat a gap between parents and teens.

And let’s be real here I have rarely seen a period of grounding where parents and teens are using the time to get close together so it has to be right when we apply it.

 I know the whole purpose of grounding is for them to learn to stay on track when it comes to good behavior or respecting family rules but does it really work!? 

Sometimes YES! because they don’t wanna lose their friends day out or any of their privileges but let me totally be honest some times NO they wont care when it comes to grounding them they would say it’s ok! it’s fine! No problem! I love staying home! But teens will always be teens and it’s ok to have ups and downs.
Ok and let’s say You ground them for a period of time and have an agreement if they do extra work around the house or get better grades then they can maybe earn time off by good behavior? If not then what will motivate them to be nice during grounding time? And if they have a bad attitude what do I do as a parent ground them even more? Where does it end! 
Here are some helper points:

– Always explain why they are grounded! 

Tell them why you are grounding them and how you feel about their action or behavior and it’s ok to listen to what they have to say, that doesn’t mean that you will change your mind on the grounding part.

– Take a moment to be clear on your terms when it comes to their grounding! Be very clear Is it time away from friends? No phone calls? No internet? Weekends home? Cut down on allowance? Sometimes I will be so upset where I would tell my kids I will talk to you later or tomorrow after school on what your punishment would be and I explain to them it’s not because I don’t wanna deal with it now! It’s because I wanna be fair with my punishment. 

– Never let grounding time to long! 

It seriously gives you lesser chance to cave in, and to crosse the massage clear with out losing it, let’s say they are late so for the next two weeks they have to come earlier then their usual curfew.

– Find ways for them to learn from it! 

Give them work around the house or you can even make them write a report on their behavior including a plan for not repeating it again.

ุงู„ุชุญุฑุด ุงู„ุฌู†ุณูŠ ุจุงู„ุฃุทูุงู„

ุจุชูƒู„ู… ุนู† ุดูŠ ูˆุงูŠุฏ ู…ู‡ู… ุจุณ ู…ูˆ ู…ุชุนุงุฑู ุนู„ูŠู‡ ุจู…ุฌุชู…ุนู†ุง! ูˆ ู‚ู„ูŠู„ ุฌุฏุงู‹ ุฃู‡ุงู„ูŠ ุชุชูƒู„ู… ุนู† ู‡ุงู„ู…ูˆุถูˆุน ู…ุน ุนูŠุงู„ู‡ู… ุฃูˆ ุจุดูƒู„ ุนุงู…!

ุงู„ุชุญุฑุด ุงู„ุฌู†ุณูŠ ุจุงู„ุฃุทูุงู„

ุดู†ูˆ ู…ุนู†ู‰ ุงู„ุชุญุฑุด ุงู„ุฌู†ุณูŠ ุจุงู„ุฃุทูุงู„ุŸ 

ุงู„ุชุญุฑุด ุงู„ุฌู†ุณูŠ ุจุงู„ุฃุทูุงู„ ู…ู† ุฃุฎุทุฑ ุงู„ุฌุฑุงุฆู… ุงู„ูŠ ููŠ ุงู„ู…ุฌุชู…ุน . ูˆู‡ูˆ ุงุชุตุงู„ ุฌู†ุณูŠ ุจูŠู† ุทูู„ ูˆุดุฎุต ุจุงู„ุบ ู„ุฅุฑุถุงุก ุฑุบุจุงุช ุฌู†ุณูŠุฉุŒ ูˆ ู„ู‡ ุนุฏุฉ ุฃุดูƒุงู„. 

ุฃุฏุฑูŠ ุฅู† ู…ุญุฏ ูŠุชุฎูŠู„ ู‡ุงู„ุดูŠ ุงู„ูุธูŠุน ูŠุตูŠุฑ ู…ุนุงู‡ ุจุณ ุฎู„ ู†ูƒูˆู† ูˆุงู‚ุนูŠูŠู†! ุงู„ู€ู…ู€ุดู€ูƒู€ู„ู€ู‡ ู…ูˆุฌูˆุฏู‡ ูˆ ุจุดูƒู„ ูƒุจูŠุฑ ูˆ ุนุงุฏุฉู‹ ุงู„ุทูู„ ูŠุชุนุฑุถ ู„ู‡ุง ุจุบูู„ุฉ ุงู„ุฃู‡ู„ ูˆ ุจุงู„ุฃุบู„ุจ ูŠุตูŠุฑ ู…ู† ุฏุงุฎู„ ุงู„ุจูŠุช ุฃูˆ ู…ู† ุงู„ุฃู‚ุงุฑุจ! ุฃุฏุฑูŠ ุจุชู‚ูˆู„ูˆู† ู…ุณุชุญูŠู„!! ู…ุงูƒูˆ ุดูŠ ู…ุณุชุญูŠู„ ูˆ ู‡ุฐุง ุงู„ูˆุงู‚ุน! ูˆ ู‡ุฐุง ุงู„ุณุจุจ ุงู„ูŠ ุฎู„ุงู†ูŠ ุฃูƒุชุจ ุนู† ู‡ุงู„ุดูŠ ูˆ ุฃูˆู‘ุนูŠ ุงู„ุฃู‡ุงู„ูŠ ุจุงู„ู…ูˆุถูˆุน. 

ู„ู…ุง ุขุฏู… ูˆ ุฌู†ู‰ ูƒุงู†ูˆุง ุจุงู„ุฑูˆุถุฉ ูƒู„ู…ุชู‡ู… ุนู† ู‡ุงู„ู…ูˆุถูˆุนุŒ ุงู„ู…ูˆุถูˆุน ูˆุงูŠุฏ ุญุณุงุณ ุจุณ ูƒุงู† ุงู„ุญูˆุงุฑ ู„ุงุฒู… ูŠุตูŠุฑุŒ ุจู„ุดุช ู…ุนุงู‡ู… ุจูƒู„ ู‡ุฏูˆุก ูˆ ุจุทุฑูŠู‚ุฉ ุฌุฏุงู‹ ุณู„ุณู‡ ุจูŠู‘ู†ุช ู„ู‡ู… ุดู†ูˆ ุงู„ู„ู…ุณ ุงู„ู…ุณู…ูˆุญ ูˆ ุงู„ู„ู…ุณ ุงู„ุบูŠุฑ ู…ุณู…ูˆุญ ุดู†ูˆ ุฃูˆูƒูŠ ูˆ ุดู†ูˆ ู„ุงุŒ ูˆุถุญุช ู„ู‡ู… ุฅู† ุงู„ุญูŠู† ูƒุจุฑูˆุง ูˆ ุฃุนุถุงุกู‡ู… ุงู„ุฎุงุตุฉ ูˆุงูŠุฏ ุณุจุดู„ ูˆ ู…ุญุฏ ู„ู‡ ุงู„ุญู‚ ูŠุดูˆูู‡ู…ุŒ ูˆ ุขุฎุฑ ุดูŠ ูˆ ุจุงู„ู†ุณุจุฉ ู„ูŠ ุฃู‡ู… ุดูŠ ุฃู† ุฃู†ุง ุฏุงูŠู…ุงู‹ ู…ูˆุฌูˆุฏุฉ ูˆ ู„ุงุฒู… ูŠู‚ูˆู„ูˆู† ู„ูŠ ูƒู„ ุดูŠ ุญุชู‰ ู„ูˆ ุดูŠ ู…ูˆ ุฒูŠู† ู„ุฃู† ุฃุญุจู‡ู… ุฃูƒุซุฑ ู…ู† ุฃูŠ ุดูŠ ุจุงู„ุฏู†ูŠุง ูˆ ุฏุงูŠู…ุงู‹ ุฑุงุญ ุฃูƒูˆู† ูŠู…ู‡ู… ูˆ ู…ุนุงู‡ู…. 

ุจุงู„ู†ุณุจุฉ ู„ูŠ ุชุชูƒู„ู…ูˆู† ู…ุน ุงุนูŠุงู„ูƒู… ู…ู† ุฃู‡ู… ุงู„ุฃุดูŠุงุก ุงู„ูŠ ุงุชุณูˆู†ู‡ุง! ุฃุญูŠุงู†ุงู‹ ุงู„ุชุญุฑุด ุงู„ุฌู†ุณูŠ ูŠุณุชู…ุฑ ูˆ ูŠุตูŠุฑ ุฃูƒุซุฑ ู…ู† ู…ุฑุฉ ู„ุนุฏู… ูˆุนูŠ ุงู„ุทูู„ ุจุงู„ุดูŠ ูˆ ู…ุง ูŠุฏุฑูŠ ุฅู†ู‡ ุบู„ุท ุฃูˆ ูŠู…ูƒู† ูŠุญุณ ุงู„ุทูู„ ุฅู†ู‡ ู…ูˆ ู…ุฑุชุงุญ ู…ู† ุงู„ูŠ ู‚ุงุนุฏ ูŠุตูŠุฑ ุจุณ ุฎุงูŠู ูŠุชูƒู„ู… ู„ู…ู„ูŠูˆู† ุณุจุจ ุจุฑุงุณู‡! 

ูˆ ุงู„ู„ู‡ ู„ุง ูŠู‚ูˆู„ ูŠุตูŠุฑ ุดูŠ ู…ุน ุฃุญุฏ ุนู„ู‰ ุทูˆู„ ุชุตุฑููˆุง ุฃุฏุฑูŠ ุงู† ุงู„ู…ูˆุถูˆุน ูƒุจูŠุฑ ูˆ ุตุฏู…ุฉ ุจุณ ู„ุงุฒู… ุงู„ุฃู… ุฃูˆ ุงู„ุฃุจูˆ ูŠูƒูˆู†ูˆู† ุฃู‚ูˆูŠุง ูˆ ูŠูƒูˆู†ูˆู† ู…ุณูŠุทุฑูŠู† ุนู„ู‰ ุฃุนุตุงุจู‡ู… ูˆ ู…ุดุงุนุฑู‡ู… ุฌุฏุงู… ุงู„ุทูู„ ู„ุฃู† ุงู„ุชุญุฑุด ุงู„ุฌู†ุณูŠ ุจุฃู†ูˆุงุนู‡ ู…ูˆ ุจุณ ุญุงุฏุซุฉ ูˆ ุชุนุฏูŠ! ูŠู†ุชุฌ ุนู†ู‡ ุงุถุทุฑุงุจ ู†ูุณูŠ ุนู„ู‰ ู…ุฏู‰ ุทูˆูŠู„ ูˆ ู‚ุตูŠุฑุŒ ูˆ ุชูƒูˆู‘ู† ุฃู…ุฑุงุถ ู†ูุณูŠุฉุŒ ุนุงุทููŠุฉ ูˆ ุงุฌุชู…ุงุนูŠุฉ.