Everything is harder when depressed can you imagine how harder it is when your a mom with millions of responsibilities!! It’s crazy, no no it’s over crazy!!
The hardest thing really is how to act normal and not let your kids see any difference in your actions, emotions and daily behavior.
Many mothers with depression are less likely to engage positively with their kids and that’s the hard truth about depression, so can you imagine how hard we have to work to put this play on that everything is ok!
I recently left my job, it might not be the wisest choice but for me it was the best choice! I was stuck in a job where I was seriously dying I hated it beyond imagination and I felt like I had no purpose going to work everyday from 7.30am till 1pm doing nothing! Nothing at all!!!! I would rather be at the gym! Do errands! You know what I mean!
Jobless for a month and feeling lost, don’t know what I really wanna do in life. Feeling distance from my kids although trying my best to be so normal and the same me around them but it’s very hard it breaks my heart at times, thank Allah that my kids are old enough to not be needing me 24/7 and their off school and always having something to do with friends and cousins
I try very hard to ignore the little super-mom in my head telling me to buck up and deal. Because while I do believe in pushing myself to stay active and functioning when I’m depressed, I’ve also come to realize that it’s important not to push too hard! It’s ok it’s totally ok to feel like staying in bed all day and not wanting to do anything but eat!!! We are humans and we need to feel weak sometimes! Feel blue and feel sad! But the most important thing is that you know that I can’t stay like this forever! You need to fix it and fix it right. Everyone of us can in their time and way! We are all different and what works for me doesn’t have to work with you!
I have never been a fan of sleepovers but I haven’t been against it overall!
When Adam started to sleepover it was so easy to handle. It happened every now and then noting big really! As days went by and he got a year older it has been a problem! He wants to sleepover every school day off he gets and every weekend!! It’s so out of control, I say no but then comes the begging and wining and the whole drama thing! And I always well ok not always cuz sometimes I cave in I’m being totally honest now but most of the time I say NO and that’s final I just shut down and stop hearing him! Then he started playing me and his dad he would take permission from his dad and start playing me with that!!
How do I fix this problem without really taking his fun away? That’s the big question here!
What I started to do is force him to come home and if he started trying I would say that’s it Adam I’m on my way to get you NOW! So it’s your choice you stay longer at your friends and come home at the end of the day or I cut the fun and take you home now, and that really helped me with controlling the sleepovers.
I still have some hard times with him especially when his friends start sending me massages but I try to be cool and strong hahaha and stick to my word ;p
Back in the days when I had my Adam and I’m talking 13 years ago! Didn’t really have much in Kuwait to read about pregnancy, toddlers, parenting and so on! Didn’t have any classes available that helped young moms learn and know more about motherhood!
I read a lot English books and did a lot of research on google, I’m not saying that no Arabic books were available about pregnancy, breast feeding and other motherhood subjects! No but not a verity and mostly really old info and old boring books!
Now a days I’m noticing the amazing work a lot of beautiful moms are doing in order to help other moms in all different aspects of motherhood 😉
Got a copy of Kuwait Moms Guid and I can’t tell you how joyful i felt by only looking at the cover 🙂 seriously I loved it, The magazine is for modern mothers, it provides tips, yum food and fun for kids, family fun, interesting subjects and much more 🙂
It also has a directory of services and information which I find very cool!!
My Jenny started compiling about headaches for the past few weeks every time I picked her up from school she would tell me that she has a headache! I always asked her if she ate at school and she always replied with a yes! I though it was from a long day at school and nothing serious!
A few days back she told me that she was having trouble seeing the board clearly at school! Right then and there I took her to check her eyes! And yes she needed glasses right away, it wasn’t that she was having trouble seeing everything! It was just trouble seeing the board and far objects so we went and got her prescription glasses and the Dr told us that she has to wear them at school and if she wanted to watch tv or at the movies.
Wearing glasses as an everyday must can be hard to start getting use to!
Something’s that Would help with this matter:
1- Talk to her about wearing glasses and how maybe some kids would teas her about it! But tell them cool people wear glasses all the time 😉
2- Make sure you get the right fit, your kids everyday glasses should be perfectly fitted and comfortable.
3- make sure you find the right Dr. To work with.
4- be patient, As with most big changes in a child’s life, getting used to new glasses will take time. It’s important that you remain optimistic and patient.
5- Get a Dr.’s report on your kids condition and pass by their school to inform them so your kid can set in front of the board to make it more easier to see.
My Jenny is at that age where all she wants to do is go out with her friends and spend time alone in her room.
It stressed me out a lot and still does! Tried many ways and ended up with:
– sometimes a face to far talk won’t work and if not then creat ways to try to communicate like letters or maybe record a video! I know it might sound crazy but come on!! Anything I would do!
– Don’t lecture, talk for hours, or ambush your teen.
– If your teen tells you a secret, keep it.
– Listen carefully to her/his concerns and feelings, and
respect their views. Teens are often afraid of being • lectured, punished, or not understood.
Stress that your teenager can and should make choices about his/her behaviors, and is responsible for
– Offer praise. Make a date to spend one-on-one time with your teen. Find something you both like to do.
– Tell your teen you love her/him With all the changes their going through, they need to hear it now more than ever.
Family meetings are a big thing with me and my kids!
I don’t really know when I started them but we’ve been having them as long as I remember!
Family meetings are time set aside to promote healthy communication, make decisions, solve problems, and encourage strong family relationships. There are two basic types of family meetings scheduled and informal.
I take family meetings very seriously and I truly think that they are very important.
A scheduled meeting provides an opportunity to get together and discuss family issues, the whole family comes together to talk about an issue that affects every member, Who’s going to do what chore? What should we do during vacation this summer? Talk about a bad something that is upsetting a member of the family or a bad behavior that happened and wasn’t expectable! The entire family works together to answer such questions, and explain behaviors or reactions.
Family meetings should include an open dialogue, allowing everyone to express his or her opinions and respond sensitively to one another. Interrupting, criticizing, and correcting should not be allowed. Openly discussing an issue together shows that everyone’s opinion is valued and that the family is a team.
To be successful, organized meetings should be short and well planned.
With time kids will get used to the family meetings and they will call for one! Seriously that happened with Adam and I was so proud that he called for a family meeting and me, Jenny and him say and talked about a very serious matter that happened and I didn’t know about! I was so proud! So happy that he did 🙂