HOW TO ROCK BEING A SINGLE YOUNG MOTHER! 

 
I became a mom when I was only 16! Yes it’s crazy, it was so not your typical teenagers life! Being a mom is the hardest job ever, and being a single young mom with two kids is even harder! Don’t get me wrong, I’m truly blessed and I love being a mom and can’t ever imagine my life any other way! 

yes it is very challenging but it’s also very rewarding in so many ways, and my favorite is the unconditional LOVE.

I have two teens, Adam is 14 and Jenna is 13 both of which are completely from different worlds.
Entering teenage hood is a challenge for both kids and mother, you can never be prepared enough! 

Have you ever asked yourself how you keep it all together and still maintain your sanity?  

  

I have!! It’s ok to lose control every now and then. I definitely had my ugly moments where I had to leave right now and then just to cry alone! Or even those days when I felt lost about my parenting skills and just wanted to stay in bed all day! Or those times when I questioned myself if i could have done more! 

It’s ok! It’s normal and that’s simply motherhood! 
I can sum up what I have learned so far in a few 
– Educate yourself as much as you can. Read, search and ask for advice but after all that, do what you think is truly right for your kids and yourself.

– Listen to your kids no matter how crazy they may sound.

– Talk to your kids about everything and don’t ever think that it’s not important or that they are too young, or whether they won’t understand or think why should I bother talking! 

If your kids don’t want to talk or open up, then create other ways to communicate. Write letters or text or make short videos if you need to communicate about something sensitive. 

– Put yourself in their place, try to understand how they would feel about certain situations.

– Be their role model.

– Let them make their own choices.

– Let them make mistakes, they will learn.

– Encourage them at all times.

– Don’t shout because they won’t listen, they will just shut down. 

– Have family meetings. Talk about family matters, bad behavior, roles and so on

– Let them have the right to negotiate on allowance, extra pocket money, curfews and chores. 

– Always teach them ethics, morals, values and respect. Therefore, they SHINE. 

Most importantly, don’t forget your passions. Remember what excites you, Remember to nurture all parts of yourself so that you truly can ROCK at being a healthy, happy mom!

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Taking Action

It feels like I will never stop talking about this!! But I hope not I hope it will end and I believe it will!
My kids and over weight, yes again! It’s like an endless process, I talked about Adam joining a boot camp and is doing really good 🙂 he’s on break now because of Ramadan but he’s back in straight after inshallah.
I have been off Jenny’s back for a while now about losing weight but due to some health issues she’s having and me fearing that she would go into deep depression I had to start talking to her about it again and trying new ways to motivate her! But no way she’s so hard headed that she doesn’t wanna do anything and keeps fighting with me all the time!
I know it’s hard it’s very hard but I have to do what I have to do and I will not give up!
So me and her dad had a serious talk and decided to be kinda hard on her and give her an ultimatum that if she doesn’t agree on working with us on this issue and let us put her in a gym with a personal trainer we would take away her phone, iPad and both Cameras that she can’t live without!! Uuuuhhhh it was really hard doing this because I totally know that it’s hard for her!
I don’t know if it’s harsh to do so! But we seriously tried everything! And this is the only way left is take away her privileges away!
Will see how this goes we have a date set up with a personal trainer on Sunday and we will see how it goes! Hope are up and inshallah for the best 🙂

Curfew

Do you have curfew for your kids? Are you with or against it? Does it really matter to you? How important is it? Why is important?

Well Adam has been going out with his friends a lot lately and since it’s spring break I don’t really mind it.
What I do mind is when he comes back home late! Usually I drop him off and pick him up but these days his friends are dropping him off with the driver but everyday he’s late!!! I have warned him before and gave him a few chances after he has given me silly excuses and when that didn’t work I have grounded him and after that he was always home at the right time! But now the problem is back! Always late! And not as if he loses track of time cuz I make sure I call him and remained him to be home before 11 pm and still! Always late! I’m sure this will get worse year by year cuz the older they get the harder it gets right!!! but I will try to control this! We gotta find away! Us parents are in control! I think what I can do now is always free myself around the time he has to get back home and just simply pick him up! With time his friends will get used to the timing and will always finish their activities within the right time that Adam has to go home, and really it’s all about setting a routine. I did feel guilty sometimes that I had to let him come back home before his friends but I think that 5 and sometimes 6 hours are more then fair to be out with his friends! And sometimes I am understanding if the excuse was fair enough cuz sometimes things happen!
So let’s see how this is gonna work this time!
Don’t forget to always explain why you are putting a curfew and why you set the time you do and it’s always good to get to an agreement on the time that both parent and teen agree on, to me that would make it fair.

The importance of curfew:

– Curfews teach the importance of keeping track of time.

– Curfews help teens get enough sleep every night.

– Helps parents worry less.

– Helps your teen understand limits and boundaries.

– Curfews are an important part of developing a teenager’s responsibility.